I would touch my belly and tell myself "it will be alright". I was in constant state of fear. It was a feeling I don't know how to explain.
It got worse because while I was pregnant three women I know lost their babies, every time I heard about those kind of news I would cry. I was insecure. I never felt that way before.
That is why it is imperative to make the big decision of making your pregnancy public only when you and your partner feel comfortable. This is not a post that will end up with cute ideas of how to announce your pregnancy (although I am pretty sure I will end up writing a post like that). This is a post to talk about how uncertain and timid some parents get in the 1st trimester.
My sisters and I got pregnant at the same time and they announced to the whole family they were pregnant as soon as they found out. My husband and I decided we were going to wait because we didn't want to be the ones writing a sad announcement on facebook to inform everyone our baby was in heaven or anything like that. Call me CRAZY, but I am THAT kind of person and I only found out about it after I got pregnant.
I have faith in God. Not telling people wasn't lack of faith, I was just protecting myself. Did people understand that? Unfortunately some did not.
My mother in law kept asking us when we were going to announce, saying some people were going to feel left out if they didn't find out soon and mysteriously they were not surprised when we told them.
My sisters told me they told every one right away because they knew nothing was going to happen.
Then there is always that person who writes about it on your Facebook Timeline because they didn't know they were not supposed to announce your pregnancy before you did it.
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We decided to tell family and a few close friends we were expecting before making it 100% public. It was our mistake. We didn't realize some people get so exciting that they cross the line, making that phase even more stressful.
So, if you are a parent like me, avoid stress and keep it low until you're ready to tell everyone.
If you are not, respect the ones who are.
This is why I will say it again: decide everything with your partner. Relatives love you and your unborn baby, but they are not on this ride with you. They don't know what it's like to be the parent of your baby. Only you and your partner do.
